区别就在于，她的男朋友是鹿晗，
她在成名前和现在在背后受过太多你们想象不到的苦，
她能去你们走不了的路，到你们去不了的远方，爱你们爱不到的人！
扎心了老铁！
今天的TED，就是要给你们这些20岁的孩子们，一次洗脑~只给有缘人看，毕竟二八法则谁也改变不了！愿你能勇敢跳出自己的界限，把自己雕刻的更加完美！
为什么要听她演讲近期观点认为，25岁似乎太过年轻，无法做重大决定。临床心理学家MegJay藉由心理学实务和著作《20世代，你的人生是不是卡住了》阐述，许多二十世代深陷《时代》杂志所谓「我我我世代」的迷思和误导中。她认为「三十世代是新二十世代」的说法使人们轻忽成年阶段最具可塑性的时光。撷取十余年来与数百名二十世代个案及学生咨商的经验，Jay将科学融入一段段引人入胜、不为人知的故事中。精彩、生动的故事发展，显示为何二十世代并非发展停滞期，而是仅此一次的发展高峰。二十世代是个关键期，我们所做之事－及未做之事－对未来人生、甚至后代都将产生巨大影响。
MegJay：二十几岁，不可挥霍的光阴英语演讲稿：
WhenIwasinmy20s,Isawmyveryfirstpsychotherapyclient.IwasaPh.D.studentinclinicalpsychologyatBerkeley.Shewasa26-year-oldwomannamedAlex.NowAlexwalkedintoherfirstsessionwearingjeansandabigslouchytop,andshedroppedontothecouchinmyofficeandkickedoffherflatsandtoldmeshewastheretotalkaboutguyproblems.NowwhenIheardthis,Iwassorelieved.Myclassmategotanarsonistforherfirstclient.(Laughter)AndIgotatwentysomethingwhowantedtotalkaboutboys.ThisIthoughtIcouldhandle.ButIdidnthandleit.WiththefunnystoriesthatAlexwouldbringtosession,itwaseasyformejusttonodmyheadwhilewekickedthecandowntheroad."Thirtysthenew20,"Alexwouldsay,andasfarasIcouldtell,shewasright.Workhappenedlater,marriagehappenedlater,kidshappenedlater,evendeathhappenedlater.TwentysomethingslikeAlexandIhadnothingbuttime.
Butbeforelong,mysupervisorpushedmetopushAlexaboutherlovelife.Ipushedback.Isaid,"Sure,shesdatingdown,shessleepingwithaknucklehead,butitsnotlikeshesgoingtomarrytheguy."Andthenmysupervisorsaid,"Notyet,butshemightmarrythenextone.Besides,thebesttimetoworkonAlexsmarriageisbeforeshehasone."Thatswhatpsychologistscallan"Aha!"moment.ThatwasthemomentIrealized,30isnotthenew20.Yes,peoplesettledownlaterthantheyusedto,butthatdidntmakeAlexs20sadevelopmentaldowntime.ThatmadeAlexs20sadevelopmentalsweetspot,andweweresittingthereblowingit.ThatwaswhenIrealizedthatthissortofbenignneglectwasarealproblem,andithadrealconsequences,notjustforAlexandherlovelifebutforthecareersandthefamiliesandthefuturesoftwentysomethingseverywhere.Thereare50milliontwentysomethingsintheUnitedStatesrightnow.Weretalkingabout15percentofthepopulation,orpercentifyouconsiderthatnoonesgettingthroughadulthoodwithoutgoingthroughtheir20sfirst.Raiseyourhandifyoureinyour20s.Ireallywanttoseesometwentysomethingshere.Oh,yay!Yallsawesome.Ifyouworkwithtwentysomethings,youloveatwentysomething,yourelosingsleepovertwentysomethings,Iwanttosee—Okay.Awesome,twentysomethingsreallymatter.SoIspecializeintwentysomethingsbecauseIbelievethateverysingleoneofthose50milliontwentysomethingsdeservestoknowwhatpsychologists,sociologists,neurologistsandfertilityspecialistsalreadyknow:thatclaimingyour20sisoneofthesimplest,yetmosttransformative,thingsyoucandoforwork,forlove,foryourhappiness,maybeevenfortheworld.Thisisnotmyopinion.Thesearethefacts.Weknowthat80percentoflifesmostdefiningmomentstakeplacebyage35.Thatmeansthateightoutof10ofthedecisionsandexperiencesand"Aha!"momentsthatmakeyourlifewhatitiswillhavehappenedbyyourmid-30s.Peoplewhoareover40,dontpanic.Thiscrowdisgoingtobefine,Ithink.Weknowthatthefirst10yearsofacareerhasanexponentialimpactonhowmuchmoneyyouregoingtoearn.WeknowthatmorethanhalfofAmericansaremarriedorarelivingwithordatingtheirfuturepartnerby30.Weknowthatthebraincapsoffitssecondandlastgrowthspurtinyour20sasitrewiresitselfforadulthood,whichmeansthatwhateveritisyouwanttochangeaboutyourself,nowisthetimetochangeit.Weknowthatpersonalitychangesmoreduringyour20sthanatanyothertimeinlife,andweknowthatfemalefertilitypeaksatage28,andthingsgettrickyafterage35.Soyour20sarethetimetoeducateyourselfaboutyourbodyandyouroptions.Sowhenwethinkaboutchilddevelopment,weallknowthatthefirstfiveyearsareacriticalperiodforlanguageandattachmentinthebrain.Itsatimewhenyourordinary,day-to-daylifehasaninordinateimpactonwhoyouwillbe
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